Self Care for The Emotionally Sensitive

 images (1)    Emotional sensitivity can sometimes seem like a curse, but in truth it is a blessing. If you have been told by others that you are too thin-skinned, that you wear your heart on your sleeve or that you feel too deeply, you are likely a misunderstood, emotionally sensitive person. The good news is that your emotional sensitivity is a core aspect of your authentic self and a strength that can be beneficial to yourself and to others. But to get the most out of your innate sensitivity, you must first understand it.

If you are emotionally sensitive, you are highly attuned to emotional energy. You perceive a wider range and intensity of emotions than others. It may sometimes feel as if your emotions are magnified. Your heart may feel like it contains cymbals which cause emotions and feelings to reverberate throughout your entire body. You may absorb the worry, stress, fear and sadness of others and feel it as your own.

Your emotional sensitivity may not be a choice. But you can make a choice as to what and whose emotions and feelings you absorb. You likely are unconsciously absorbing the emotional energy of those who you love and care about and those who are in close physical proximity to. Instead of feeling the tumultuous vast array of emotions, it is possible to shift your emotional receptors to feel the higher vibrations of love.

From the beginning of time, philosophers, poets, seers and teachers have spoken of the universal power of love. Emotionally sensitive people have direct access to tuning into and absorbing this higher aspect of love. Wherever you are, you can receive and absorb the positive energy.

To shift your emotional sensitivity from absorbing stressful and unhealthy emotional energy to effectively receiving the higher vibrations of love, try these steps.  

Begin by making a commitment to yourself and informing the universe that you are no longer willing to be an emotional sponge for negative and detrimental emotional energy. As much as you may want to help others to heal or resolve their difficulties, know that feeling their pain does not dissolve it. In fact it just makes it stronger. Even though it may not seem as if you have a choice, know that you do not have to be an emotional sponge for the free floating emotional pain, negativity, stress, fear and anxiety that you may encounter in crowds, while shopping in a store or even simply sitting in your home and watching television.

Become aware of the people in your life whose feelings you are the most susceptible to absorbing. Ask yourself if you are doing this in the hope of being closer to him or her or because you feel that this is the natural way to be in a relationship. Realize that you do not have to be emotionally enmeshed with another to maintain a positive connection. This is not the same as shutting down or not being available to those who you love and care for. Instead, you are taking charge of your sensitivity and using it in a more beneficial way.

You likely absorb certain feelings and emotions, more than others. For instance, some people are more likely to feel another’s emotional pain, someone else may be more likely to absorb fear and another sadness or grief. We do this because likes attract likes. If unresolved fear, sadness or grief reside within you, you are more likely to feel it in others. Discover your emotional wounds and heal and release them. This will prevent you from unconsciously attracting  and absorbing these emotions and feelings in others.

Spend time alone. Listen within to the inner voice of your authentic self. When emotions and feelings surface, ask yourself if this emotion is your own or someone else’s. If this is not your emotion ask yourself what the source of it is and let go of it. Once you identify that the origin of a feeling or emotion is another, it is easy to release it.

If you feel overwhelmed by feelings, but you are not able to name them and feel confused, give yourself time and don’t push yourself. Be compassionate and patient. You have likely been emotionally sensitive since childhood and it may take some time to sort through your emotions and get to the core of your genuine personal feelings. 

Have a source of positive energy in your life. Many find love, peace and solace in a spiritual practice. Meditation, rituals and quiet time in nature can provide you with the opportunity to  connect with the pure energy of unconditional love. Create a safe place in your home where you can relax, unwind and come into balance.

Do not feel shame or embarrassment if you need more alone time than others. Be honest about your needs. If you do not want to socialize in large groups or in an environment that feels overwhelming, graciously decline and take care of yourself. Others may not understand you, so it is especially critical for your well being that you understand and have compassion for yourself. As you do this you will be able to be more present and available to the people and activities that are most important to you.

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Look at yourself in the mirror in the morning with a smile of recognition. You are the one. Brave and a beacon of light, let your soul be seen. In this world of confusion and struggle, you are the lighthouse that shines bright in the darkness. 

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Springtime Beauty for Your Soul

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????You cannot fully know yourself through the thinking mind alone. In the depths of your soul you are subtle essence, difficult to grasp and always changing. When your conscious mind and your pure essence intersect, it is always a surprise. It can feel like a vast expansive opening where you feel the peace and joy of the moment in singular awareness.

To lure your essence into your conscious awareness, takes patience, solitude and compelling quiet. This aspect of your true self often surfaces when you are surrounded by natural beauty. In the forest, a garden, along the seashore, a lake, river or desert, there is an intoxicating  perfume that entices the soul.

Be alone in nature, look at the sky, breathe in the energy of nature and your soul will emerge. If you cannot be outdoors in natural beauty, fresh flowers, a water fountain, a garden, the starry sky or the view outside of a window can also have the same effect. Wherever you are, just be. Give yourself time without any expectations. Be in the moment and whatever your experience is, accept it. Feel the beauty of nature, drink it in and absorb it into your mind, body and spirit.

Your soulful essence may only emerge for a scant moment. Then quickly submerge once again, to hide out underneath your thoughts and feelings. But it is there. You may feel it in a variety of ways. It can be a sudden awareness of your connectedness with all of life. You may become aware that everything is in divine order. Your worries, stress and fears may take flight and dissolve. The light of who you are, fills you.  Maybe just for a slight small moment, you feel and know the power that resides within you.

If you are fortunate enough to experience your truth in this way. Stay in this awareness for as long as possible. It is a sacred and precious awareness that can be all too fleeting. Soon your soul seems to recede, but the clear awareness of its light will stay with you. Tuck it into your heart and keep it close. Even though you may no longer be consciously aware of  this crystal clear emergence, it is still with you. Behind your thoughts and feelings and emotions, the pure you is present, observing, inspiring and offering love and wisdom.

Thinking Intuition

10678682_793459830711439_9158001403309668299_n         In my work as a professional intuitive I have discovered that intuition surfaces in four primary ways, through our emotions, our spirit, and the physical body and through the mind. I call these different intuitive modalities your intuitive type. You are most likely a combination of two or more primary types. (In my book, Discover Your Psychic Type there is a quiz that will help you to decipher your intuitive strengths and weaknesses)

Although thinking and intuition may seem to be at opposite ends of one another, they can be quite compatible. A mental intuitive absorbs energy information through their thoughts, instantaneous knowing, quick insights and ahh moments. Often naturally telepathic, they are able to tune into the thoughts of another or a group and can intuit future trends and solutions to common problems

Because their intuition surfaces through ideas, understanding systems and insight, they can often be found in such fields as science, medicine, technology and cutting edge research, innovation and invention.  Quite often mental intuitives do not recognize their intuitive insight as anything other than their own thinking. They love to intuit, but they do not always recognize their own often insightful and usually exacting intuitive ability. I love it that Steven Jobs, clearly a mental intuitive, claimed his intuition as a strong and valuable asset.

Of intuition he said: “Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drowned your own inner voice. And most important have the courage to follow your heart and intuition they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

If you are a mental intuitive, recognizing and encouraging your natural intuition will empower you to make the best use of it. The mental intuitive’s biggest challenge may be to differentiate between the constant mental chatter of the thinking brain and the insightful flow of unbiased clear intuition. Begin the process by making the assumption that you are intuitive. The simple intent of acceptance will save you much time and effort, over-thinking and guessing as to whether or not you are intuitive. Mental intuitives have the tendency to get bogged down in inner arguments and intense focus.  Attempting to figure out and logically discern intuitive thoughts just doesn’t work.  Instead, a relaxed, lucid, even day-dreamy imaginative thought flow, is the optimum state to achieve. Find something that soothes the brain. Listening to music, exercising, especially running and swimming, driving through the countryside, doing mundane physical tasks, such as mowing the lawn, folding the laundry, creative activity such as painting or gardening, anything that gives your mind something to focus on without over-thinking, helps. While your brain is busy, your intuition will take this as an opportunity to sneak into your consciousness. You may have had this experience. We often call it an ahha moment when out of seemingly nowhere we receive an answer or understanding that has previously eluded us. 

The obvious activity that many people “think” should work and be helpful is meditation. While meditation has many benefits and certainly the ability to tune into your intuition is one of them, all too often, people expect too much and put pressure on themselves to quickly achieve a calm and clear mind. Unfortunately instead of peace this only promotes frustration and stress, not exactly what you were aiming for.  If you regularly meditate or you find that you can easily achieve a quiet receptive state by all means jump in, if not, know that there are other ways to tune within and receive intuitive information.

The next step is to be become aware of the difference between your intuition and your thinking mind. Unlike the chattering of endless thoughts, intuitive knowing is awareness that emerges as a cohesive whole. It is not a step by step logical process. You simply know. This knowing may be accompanied by a slight or sometimes pronounced, buzz of energy or tingling sensation. With your intuition there will be a moment, when you simply know that a thought or insight is true and authentic. I give readings most days of the week for people all over the world and I have been doing this for many years. Yet, almost every day I receive information that surprises me. This is another common indicator that you are receiving intuitive information. You will be surprised and even a bit jolted by a new insight. The thinking mind can only tell you what it knows. It will feed you information based on your beliefs, past experiences, judgments, biases and education. Your intuition could care less if you believe or trust what it broadcasts your way.  Even if you reject an intuitive knowing as impractical nonsense, it will return and persist.

This brings us to the next step. The art of developing a receptive and open mind and learning how to simply listen without letting the thinking brain take over. When you feel you are receiving intuitive information or are not sure but suspect it is possible, stop and listen.  This of course, is not so easy for the mental intuitive. The mental intuitive’s brain at work might look like a house overly decorated with streaming flashing lights at Christmas. You know the ones where people come from miles around to view and marvel at the time, expense and sanity of those who devote their lives to creating the visual wonder. Instead of lighting up all of your circuits, pull back, take a deep breath, and listen.  Train your brain to accomplish this and you will soon be amazed at your intuitive capabilities. Think of yourself as a reporter covering a story. Your job is to listen and if possible write down what you receive. That is it. Do not try to figure it out, understand the why, when, how and who. Just accept what you receive in its entirety. You can at a later time let loose the thinking brain and let it mull over what it is that you have intuited.

Okay, mental intuitive, you are well armed (or at least beginning steps armed).  Boldly intuit the stuff that we need figured out. You are our tough minded, solution seeking, discoverers, writers, liberators, cutting edge inventors and creators. The world needs you just about now.

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The Power of Day Dreaming

101010103      Your authentic self is a creator. It bundles together your wishes, soul gifts and purpose and inspires you with greater possibilities. Influencing you through dreams and visions, your true self seeks to lift your spirit and cast you into a compelling inner landscape of what can be. When we are relaxed and in that in-between place, where our conscious self joins forces with our soulful urges, magic happens. Day-dreaming, relaxing and drifting off into the sublime state of being is powerful.

Day-dreaming has been given a tough rap. It is not something that most people aspire to and it is generally thought of as a lazy way to spend time. But, there is a positive purpose behind closing your eyes and letting your imagination run wild. Day dreaming allows you to connect with the joy of your soul and see and feel it in action. Experiencing and envisioning your day dreams, allows them to manifest.

Try this: Take some time to imagine a life of freedom, joy and happiness. Close your eyes and in your mind’s eye imagine a scene that inspires and spreads tingles of energy through your body. Make it as real as you can. Notice the detail. Allow it to change and morph into new visions and scenarios. Relax, dream and imagine…

Outside of the known and predictable, the new resides. All possibilities are available to you. Let the limitations and boundaries fall away. Accept that what you want, wants you. Allow yourself to feel and see what brings you joy. As you experience your good it comes to you.

Your life is going to change, it is inevitable. Let it change in a gentle way. Encourage this by maintaining an open and trusting avenue. Empower this new creation by asking only for what is true for you. Trust that this will happen and that your good is within you and ready to emerge.

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The Season of Miraculous Conception

     comtempmother More and more people are feeling the presence of the divine feminine as she reemerges in the collective unconscious. For centuries patriarchal dominance has hidden, repressed and dismissed the importance of the feminine. Now, within our heart, mind and soul she is stirring and making her influence felt.

The divine masculine is an active force of energy. Divine male energy gives us the power to move through illusions, obstacles, battle negativity and tame the ego. It is concerned with the quest for the pure essence of truth and enlightenment. The divine feminine by contrast is creative, intuitive, healing, compassionate and concerned with needs in the here and now. She is the spark of life, fertility, balance, connection to the earth and the mysterious unknown. We all embody both male and female divine energy.

For centuries we have collectively over valued male energy while devaluating women in the world and the divine feminine within. This imbalance has contributed to the global economic, environmental and spiritual crisis that we find ourselves in. Our over focus on power as force, willful action, superiority and competitiveness has stunted our ability to perceive and acknowledge another kind of power.

The divine feminine expresses power as compassion, love, creativity, connection to the rhythms of the earth, the ability to heal and birth physical and spiritual manifestations and miracles. The divine feminine gives form to the mysterious divine.  In this era of global economic, environmental and spiritual change and transformation, the divine feminine is poised for a momentous reemergence.

The divine feminine is most perfectly expressed as grace and miracles through the Virgin Mary. Most of us know her as the mother of Jesus and as a silent icon of the church. While Mary is likely the most globally recognized female saint, most people know very little about her. This is in part because the full scope of her power and presence has been repressed and denied for centuries.

Mary was a rebel in her time. She took God out of the temple and synagogues and placed the divine within the individual. This knowledge and awareness was a threat to the religious and political institutions. Had it been known that the power of the divine resides within self, then the power of the church as the intermediary between heaven and earth would have been diminished. If an individual is not bound to the repetitive cycle of cause and effect and has the inherent ability to create from pure source then temples and churches have no authority and no claim to divine power.

Mary fully accepted the cosmic plan for her life. When she did, she opened the gates for the interplay of the material and spiritual and created a new paradigm for the commingling of heaven and earth. The seven phases of Mary’s life, her virginity, communication with Archangel Gabriel, the miraculous conception, pregnancy, the journey to Bethlehem, the birth in the manger and her ascension are spiritual energy portals. These seven events form a blueprint for the development of divine intuition, angelic communication, living in the magic of synchronisities, accepting grace, co-creating miracles and ascension.

Mary is an ascended master who invites you to walk her path. In the midst of anxiety and stress, when experiencing lack, pain or fear, invoke Mary’s presence through simple intent. Breathe, open your heart to her love, listen to the still voice within and let go of your expectations. Surrender, pause and allow new energy into your life. Whoever you are, whatever your beliefs, whatever your past or your present may be, grace transforms and alters the events, conditions and the course of your life. Elevating you into direct contact with divine presence, Mary’s pattern moves you into the center of divine power. Grace lifts you beyond the constraints of cause and effect, karma and the material laws. It empowers you to create a new and fresh from unlimited possibilities, goodness and infinite supply.

It was through grace that Mary accepted the divine purpose for her life and was able to miraculously conceive. Grace will act in your life in much the same way. Through grace you can manifest miracles in the areas where you most need them, abundance, health and healing in the physical body, harmonious relationships, a sense of wellbeing and inner peace and feelings of joy.

Accept your spirit’s rightful activity. You are a co-creator. In every moment, thought and perception, the same pure divine energy of the miraculous Conception is offered to you. Instead of the automatic and unconscious habit of relying on your conditioned perceptions and the belief that you can change the events and conditions of your life, accept the grace of the divine feminine through Mary. 

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Four Misunderstood Intuitive Signals

10405683_10154294606595247_7741343829002372226_nWhen we listen to our intuition something magical happens. Despite the conditions and difficulties that confront us, a way is made, a door is opened and the wisdom and grace of the universe flows into our lives. We are so accustomed to using our logic and reason to make choices and decisions, we all too often, disregard subtle intuitive guidance.

When we listen to and act on our intuition, unexpected and often surprisingly useful help comes our way. Yet, intuitive insight gives us even more than practical and concrete guidance and direction. It reminds us that we are more than we believe ourselves to be. There is a subtle and often mysterious transcendent presence that moves through our heart, mind and spirit. It connects us to one another and to a greater wisdom than our thinking minds can fathom. Intuitive awareness gives us insight about ourselves and the universe. It is the doorway through which the soul’s wisdom and love surfaces.

Our intuition continually sends us signs and signals, some we notice but many we disregard and are oblivious to. We are inclined to believe that receiving intuitive guidance is markedly  different then the way that we receive information through our other senses. Yet intuitive insight and awareness is intertwined throughout our moment to moment thoughts, feelings and experiences. 

Here are some often Misunderstood ways that your Intuition surfaces.

Your Thoughts: 

Although there often seems to be a discernible difference between thinking and intuiting, intuitive messages often emerge through our thoughts. Intuitive thoughts come into our awareness complete and as a cohesive whole. Finite mind chatter thoughts stream into our consciousness in a more linear way, one thought leads to another, then  another. They may cause confusion and doubt or leave us with more questions. Intuitive thoughts are ahha moments that assure us with a flash of knowing of their accuracy and truth.

For example: While driving the car or doing another repetitive task, the sudden surprising awareness of the solution to a pressing problem, is likely an intuitive thought.

Your Feelings and Emotions:

With a little awareness and focus you can become aware of the difference between an intuitive emotion and one that is being generated through biological and physiological responses. Most of our emotions and feelings originate in what we think and believe or are prompted by physical or mental unconscious triggers. Intuitive messages that emerge through your emotions are often sudden, all consuming and may seem inappropriate to the situation. They quickly shift us into unexpected feelings and emotions that are unrelated to our current thoughts.

Intuitive energy information may move through you as unexpected feelings of comfort, love and compassion that seem to contradict your current situation or emotional state of being.

For instance: In the midst of grief and loss, the sudden comforting feeling of peace and love that heals our heart and soul, is most likely an intuitive emotion.

Emotions such as fear and stress may also be intuitive messages that come to alert you to be cautious and extra aware of your environment or other conditions.

For instance: Feeling surprising stress about driving your usual route to work one morning despite no recent issues or problems, is likely an intuitive message.

Physical Sensations:

Physical sensations can be triggered by intuitive energy information. A tingling up your spine, the hair on your arms standing up, a feeling in the pit of your stomach or a buzzing in your head are common intuitive signals. They differ from physical sensations derived from normal biological processes like digestion or muscle twinges, in that intuitive physical sensations usually come with an instantaneous awareness, knowing or feeling.

For instance: The gut feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is not right about the contract that you are about to sign, is likely an intuitive message.

Unexpected Changes:

Intuitive messages often show up in our lives through events and conditions that unexpectedly fall apart or bring us good fortunate and positive benefits.

For example: Have you have done everything that you can to organize and execute a plan or project and something seems to come out of nowhere to put an end to it or to divert the expected outcome? Has a spontaneous opportunity or a surprising success ever easily and unexpectedly come your way?

These kinds of situations are a type of intuitive message that come into our lives to inspire and align us with our true soul path. They differ from plans that fall apart through lack of hard work and preparation or opportunities that come to us that steer us away from our highest good through wishful thinking and empty illusion. Outer intuitive messages that emerge through changes in our current plans and direction, transform us on a deep level. We inwardly sense that what has occurred in not an accident or lucky chance. Recognizing this as a call to a new path we are given the choice to trust our inner knowing or continue to ignore the signs. When we choose to pay attention and accept the wisdom of the message, we are never sorry. Good things come, even if we are initially frustrated or resistant.

Intuitive messages come to you from the core of your authentic self. They are the voice of your heart and soul. As subtle as they may appear to be, trust the little voice inside of you that alway recognizes truth.

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