Question: Why Do Some People Suffer Before Passing Over?

soultoheaven Someone recently asked me an interesting question. She wondered why her grandmother suffered for so long before passing over to the other side. I understood the question well. Anyone who has helplessly watched a loved one suffer through pain and illness before passing over, has the same question. Over the course of a year, my mother went from playing tennis two hours a day, to being bedridden, riddled with pain and unable to think clearly. When she died it felt like a blessing.
For months after my mother’s death I contemplated and asked my guides to help me to understand why she and so many others suffer before passing over. I learned that although it appears to make no sense and be a cruel way to live out the last days of life, the soul doesn’t abide by our human perceptions. On some level we accept and create all that happens to us. Yet, it is not our conscious mind or personality and ego that makes these choices. Instead, it is the soul and spirit that perceives value and evolutionary advancement and possibilities in what in human terms is senseless and merciless. In my mother’s case, my guides told me that my mother chose to suffer in this way to “burn” off negativity and karma before entering the higher vibrations of light. In this way she was able to leave behind and dissolve emotional, mental, spiritual and even physical patterns and accumulated energy that may prevent her from rising to higher blissful layers of light more quickly upon passing.
There are many people who suffer who lived good, positive lives with kindness and integrity. They may confront their imminent passing with courage and acceptance. There are others who are not as fortunate. They are fearful of going over, plagued with guilt and doubtful that there is life beyond the human experience.
Sometimes we choose a slower more conscious experience of dying to become more aware of our spirit and soulful self. It is only the physical and ego self that suffers. Dying pushes the soul to the forefront. The soul never suffers, it understands, heals, reveals truth and is a comforting balm to the confused human self. Many people become aware during the process of dying that there is a part of them that is eternal. They see their loved ones on the other side and make frequent trips into the spirit realm to check it out before they go over.
Sometimes people linger and die slowly as a way to bring comfort to those left behind. It can be hard to let go. Family and friends may want to hold onto their loved ones and cannot imagine life without them. A slower dying process can be an opportunity to review one’s life and forgive and be forgiven. It gives the family time to let go and say all that they need to say.
Some souls choose to suffer to lift the burdens and pain of others. It is the final opportunity in the physical body to love and express goodness. Conscious suffering can lift the suffering and burdens of others when it encompasses and transmutes pain that is bigger than the individual. Shortly before my mother died she told me that her suffering was becoming unbearable. She didn’t know how to get relief. Her mental and emotional suffering was as difficult as the physical pain and discomfort. I told her to imagine that her pain was alleviating the pain of children who were suffering.
If you knew, I told her, that your suffering was helping children, could you do this? She said that she could and she immediately become more calm and at peace. This seemed to give a sense of purpose to the confusion and the loneliness that comes with the end of physical life.
Even if we do not understand it from a human perspective. This world is a flip flop of the eternal realm of spirit. What you go through and endure and what your family and friends go through is not without meaning and purpose. It is the rich soil from which your soul grows and expands into true and eternal love and life.

The Pope and Giving

comtempmother Watching Pope Francis being greeted by thousands of people and listening to a few of his talks, has stirred up a few memories. In his speech before Congress he mentioned Dorothy Day. She was a radical Catholic who created non-church supported soup kitchens and shelters for the poor, called the Catholic Worker. Along with her devotion to the disenfranchised and castaways of society, she was also a passionate protester, speaking out against, war and many political policies and practices.
Years ago, I lived and worked at the Catholic Worker Tivoli farm. (It is a long and zany story of how I came to be there and will share on another blog post. I also wrote about this in my book The Miracle Workers Handbook.) Tivoli was a working farm that supplied the soup kitchens with food grown on the farm in the summer months. I often went to the New York City shelters during the summer to drop off fresh vegetables. This is where I met Dorothy. Even in her eighties, she lived in the homeless women’s shelter and ate many of her meals in the dining room among the destitute women.
In those days I was devoted to helping and serving the poorest of the poor. Many of the long term aged homeless men and women who had been living in the streets of the city for years, went to the Tivoli farm in upstate New York to live out their remaining time in peace and safety. I loved the people and the work at the farm. Yet, it was not always easy. Most of the people living there were physically, mentally and emotionally challenged and ill. There were several other volunteers like myself, but most of the people who lived there were not able to work. I eventually moved to the San Jose, Ca. Catholic Worker to work at the inner city soup kitchen and homeless shelter there.
During my years of volunteer service, I was psychic and often saw and communicated with those on the other side. Yet, I had no interest or intention of becoming a professional psychic. I rarely talked about my intuitive sensitivities and gifts and instead focused on the practical day to day needs of people living on the streets. I thought this was my purpose. But, as it usually goes, there was a different plan for my life.
Although I had no strong interest in being Catholic, I loved reading books about the saints, especially women saints. Many lived incredible lives, complete with visions and extraordinary and supernatural gifts. Although I had no aspirations or illusions that I had much in common with the saints, what I read helped to put into a better context what I was experiencing. I realized that psychic and intuitive communication could be a way that the divine speaks to us and though us. Sharing love and guidance from the spirit realm, I slowly realized, might also be an important form of service.
As my psychic ability took on a life force of its own, I made peace with this gift and realized that perhaps, this was my calling. Although providing for the poor, sick and disenfranchised in tangible ways is an essential and blessed path, there are many ways to give and serve. Loneliness, grief, confusion and depression and anxiety have their own suffering. No one really knows the depths of despair that another may be going through or the light and love that is housed within their spirit. Maybe only a higher spiritual presence and power knows who we really are.
Joy comes through heartfelt giving and love can be expressed in limitless ways.

You Are Never Alone

images (2)Change is never easy. Yet, it never ends. Sometimes we embrace it and other times we fear and deny that it is happening. I have recently had several friends leave my life. A few have moved, one died and another’s life has become busy and moved her in a different direction. Of course, I am a frustrating friend to have. I fully admit that at times I can be a challenge. I think with me it is feast or famine. When someone is in my life, they are in my life. I willingly open all that I have, my heart, soul and presence. Then new ideas come, I focus on my clients and so often seek the refuge of solitude to recharge and balance. Friends and family who know me well, have come to understand my need for alone time.

I was recently walking my dogs in the early morning pre-dawn, no one is outdoors and I love watching the sun come up. Enjoying my alone time, I realized the obvious. We are never alone. I have gotten so used to the constant hum and back and forth of inner communication with the spirit realm, I forgot that I am never really alone. I don’t think any one of us is.
We are all stuck together in a web of energy. I imagine us like the sea. We move and flow with one another as one. Yet we are also just little drops of energy, that can appear to separate from the whole.

There is no place to go that spirit is not. This is an overwhelming gift, even if we are not aware of it. Being with your loved ones on the other side, your spirit guides and angels is a soft cushion of support and love. Spirit opens up space for us. It doesn’t crowd us in. It is a wonderful way to be. We are not held together by need or by superficial and shallow expectations, like we sometimes find in the human realm. This is all love and a different way of being.That we do not always take advantage of. Spirit has your back and is ready to roll out the red carpet of guidance and love. Just open the door.

Q & A –Me and Medical Intuition

Develop You Medical Intuition
is being translated into Danish.
Here is an excerpt from an Interview I did with the Danish publisher for their catalog.

1) What does it mean to be a medical intuitive?
Simply stated a medical intuitive is able to become aware of physical/mental/emotional and spiritual health energy information without reliance on external sources.

2) How did you develop your own intuitive skills?
I was fortunate to have people in my life who supported my intuitive development and allowed me to practice and go through the inevitable trial and error process. This was also the case in developing medical intuition. Already a professional intuitive for many years, I become involved with the Duke University Integrative Medicine program during its early formation stage. I worked along side medical professionals who were interested in researching and developing medical intuition as a tool for assessing health.

3) Is it always possible to find an energetic reason for illness? Even the slightest cold?
There are many causes and factors that lead to illness. Most health dysfunctions are a combination of physical, mental, spiritual and emotional imbalances and issues. For instance, repressed emotional grief may lower your immune system and make you more susceptible to the virus that causes a cold.
4) Does it require special skills to begin with to get started working and developing one’s medical intuition?
The body is wise and communicative. For instance, pain and discomfort are common ways that our body alerts us to problems. Everyone can learn how to listen more deeply and recognize the body’s subtle and at times not so subtle, messages.

5) Could you give three good advices in regard to developing bodily intelligence and learning how to listen to the body’s signals? And what is the most important?
Take back your power to create good health and wellness. Relax, breathe and move your awareness through your body, becoming alert to any tension, tightness or stress. Pause and ask questions of these areas. Energy responds to your requests through spontaneous intuitive, thoughts, feelings, sensations, dreams and even synchronisities.
Most importantly become aware of how your intuition already naturally surfaces. I identify the four basic types in the book. This is your most trustworthy avenue through which to accurately tune into the messages your body sends you.

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Use Your Intuition to Lose Weight


Would you like to lose a few pounds or more? Have you have ever had difficulty losing weight? No matter what you eat and how much you exercise, do you find that you are unable to lose and might even continue to gain weight. Your natural intuition can be a powerful ally in losing weight and maintaining a healthy diet.
Many people have an ongoing struggle with gaining unwanted pounds and are confused and discouraged by their failed attempts to maintain their optimum weight. Although we would like to believe that issues with weight are purely diet and exercise related, your thoughts, emotions and energetic vibration also contribute to weight gain. Your intuition can be a surpassing source of insight and help in becoming aware of these nonphysical influences and in reaching and maintaining your optimum weight

Tune Into Your Emotional Connection to Food
Although we are aware of the healthiest foods and how much to eat, we often find ourselves overeating and consuming nutritionally low and high calorie food. We do not do this because we are hungry. Instead, we often reach for food in an attempt to satisfy and deal with difficult and confusing emotions and feelings. Food changes brain chemistry and some foods can trigger temporary feel good emotional and psychological responses. Emotions such as stress, loneliness, anxiety, sadness, exhaustion and anger, can be uncomfortable. Certain foods provide soothing chemical reactions which regulate our moods and suppress our feelings.
Emotions and our desire to eat are powerfully linked. Your intuition can be a valuable tool in helping you to tune into and heal the underlying emotional energy that leads to weight gain.
Try This:
Before you head for the kitchen to satisfy a hunger craving, sit quietly and close your eyes. Take a deep breath and slowly exhale. Continue to breathe deeply and release any stress and tension in your body as you exhale.
Focus your awareness within and ask yourself either aloud or silently what you are feeling. Gently repeat this question a few times. Allow any emotions to surface. Put a name to them and continue to breathe and allow as much feeling and emotional energy to surface as possible.
Listen to the feeling or emotion and dialogue with it. What is it saying to you? Listen and ask what you can do to heal and calm these emotions and come into a state of inner peace and calm. Breathe and trust what you receive.
Ask for the presence of love and allow it to transform these feelings.
Tune Into the Energy Of What You Are Eating
We often look to food to satisfy our desires, needs, emotions and insecurities. Food no longer becomes food. Instead it becomes a substitute for what ails us and a temporary fix. When you become aware of your projections, you discharge food of its illusionary allure and appeal. You know it for what it is.
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Try this:
Next time you have a craving or desire to eat, sit quietly and close your eyes. Take a deep breath and slowly exhale. Continue to breathe deeply and release any stress and tension in your body as you exhale.
Hold some of the food that you desire to eat in your hand. Intuitively tune this food and allow the thoughts, feelings and desires that you have projected onto it to surface. One by one listen to what you receive and become aware that this energy has nothing to do with the food that you are holding. When you feel that all of your thoughts and feelings have surfaced continue to breathe and relax.
Now, intuitively tune into the true energy of the food you are holding. What is its vibration? Is it vibrant and life giving or inert? If this food could speak, what would it be saying? Will it strengthen or weaken your body, mind and spirit?
Know that you have a choice. This food is probably not able to transform difficult and uncomfortable emotions or negative thoughts. If there is a positive feeling that you get from the food you are holding, imagine that you can absorb the good energy of it without eating it. Ask yourself how to take care of yourself without eating the food you are holding.
Tune Into Your Energetic Weight
There is a very real connection between the energetic stress and burdens that you absorb from others and your physical weight. Have you ever talked to someone and felt heavy with their problems or burdens and emotions. After listening to their issues, he or she may walk away feeling lighter while you heavily shuffle out the door. Many loving positive people take on the stress and pain of others not realizing the impact that this may have on their health and well-being.
The energy of others has a very real affect and influence on you. You cannot heal and resolve the emotions that you have unknowingly absorbed from others. Not only do we use food in an attempt to manage our own uncomfortable emotions, we also use food to try and dull and quiet the emotions that we take on from others.
Unconsciously absorbing other’s energy can affect your weight in other ways as well. Your unconscious mind may be converting the energy that you have absorbed from others and your environment into physical pounds. The unconscious mind does not evaluate and reason. It simply responds to the information and data at hand. If you are overburdened and heavy with the another’s energy, the body will accept the message that you are heavy and manifest more physical weight.
Try This:
Intuitively dialogue with your body. If you intuitively feel that you may be absorbing detrimental energy from others, trust yourself. Intend to release and let go of the energetic stress of others. Set yourself free. Imagine shedding all of the heavy low vibrational energy that you may have absorbed. Let go of other’s problems, pains and issues, stress, fear and burdens. Instead feel yourself and those you care about filled with love. Imagine the physical pounds dissolve as you absorb the weightless high vibration of light.
Continue to intuitively communicate with your body, mind and spirit for optimal health and wellbeing.

Psychic, Medium, Medical Intuitive and Best-Selling Author, Sherrie Dillard’s latest book is Develop Your Medical Intuition: Activate Your Natural Wisdom For Optimum Health and Well-Being.


The Intuitive Agenda

With many years of being a professional psychic and medium under my belt, I am more aware than ever of the distinct difference between the thinking mind and intuitive receptivity. Intuitive awareness has taught me the importance of inner stillness and how to manage emotions, disappointments, and be present. I have learned to go in the opposite direction of the thinking mind. To be less reactive and to live with what is. Intuition has led me to acceptance. Even though much of the time we are motivated to develop intuition to know more and have an advantage in our daily concerns, it mysteriously always dips us into the deeper currents where we are working out the issues of our soul.
The map through life that intuition offers is a wild adventure. Intuitive awareness is a paradoxical lover that both demands that you wrestle with your day to day issues and challenges and at the same time, laugh it all off for the wispy dream that it is. We don’t get strapped in tight for this roller coaster. Instead, the exploration of intuitive awareness soon steers us into the depths of our inner self. It implores us to look in the full length mirror of our mind, body and spirit and become aware of how well we are reflecting the true potential and majesty of our soul.
When we intuitively listen within, timeless questions come to the forefront and demand to be answered.
How do I love? Can I be kind in the face of small frustrations and meanness? Can I be myself and follow my dreams or am I easily scared into complacency and rigid adherence to societal norms and expectations? What does this world need for me to give and share?
We cannot answer these questions with only the courage and love that our human self can muster. Fortunately intuitive awareness supplies both the questions and the wisdom to answer them. It opens the door for our soul to surge forward and remind us of a truth that we may have been hiding from. We are made of the stuff of the earth, the skies and the stars. The heavens is our rightful home. Life on earth breaks us down and builds us back up many times over. Yet, within self there is a much stronger and brighter light that the world cannot touch. In this light we heal and are made strong. Your intuitive knowing is always nudging you to reclaim what has never been lost. All that we undergo, the joy, suffering, desire, confusion and stress, pushes us to perceive and embody this inner light.
Your power and true self does not live in the shadows of the world. The quality of your days, the ability to feel authentic joy and live with purpose and positivity cannot be found through searching outside of yourself. Instead, it is when we are able to listen, perceive, feel and sense that there is something more within us speaking with a still small whisper, that it all begins to make sense.
Turn away from the chaotic loud voice of the world and be present to your own profound goodness and you will find the true you. Intuition may give you insight into the many demands that you encounter each day, but it’s true purpose is to usher you into the remembrance of who you are.