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OverCome Doubt

Behind every genius idea, new project, work of art, budding love relationship and step into the unknown, doubt lurks. Following an ahha moment where the clouds of confusion part and we see with clear awareness, there often comes a time of questioning. Self-doubt can make you feel as if you are inwardly divided and at odds with what you know to be your truth. Your creative, inspired and intuitively insightful spirit and your cautious, fear based ego mind seem to be at war with one another.
Doubt traps the authentic self in a small and dark corner. A form of judgment, doubt arises when we expect certain outcomes. For years I wanted to write a book. I had a lot of ideas, but whenever I started to write them down, I doubted my abilities. I would torture myself with questions like: What if I failed? What if I spend months and maybe years writing a book and I cannot get it published? What if no one reads it or likes what I write? My expectations were high. If I wrote a book I wanted it to be, published, read and successful. Doubts plagued me.
Lacking the conviction that I could be a successful writer, I turned my attention to other areas. I devoted myself to becoming a better and more accurate intuitive and medium and increasing my clientele. I also worked part time as an art therapist at a treatment center for troubled youth. It was in this unlikely environment that my fears and anxiety about writing were transformed.
A large part of my work as an art therapist involved creating stories to engage and motivate the students. When they expressed enthusiasm with one of the stories, usually an outrageous and ridiculous one, I quickly wrote it down. Hopeful that the next class would also find it as interesting. The more I wrote, the more I relaxed and enjoyed it. No longer feeling pressure, my relationship to writing changed. Writing, I realized, helped me to feel alive, vibrant and full of energy. It was a transcendent experience where all of me came together with passion and purpose. The dread of publishers, others opinions and my own perfectionist self-judgment began to fade and be less important. Writing no longer felt like a choice. I wrote for my soul, it was the elixir that helped me to feel fully alive.
If doubt immobilizes you here are a few suggestions.
Take a break and get away from the project or issue that you feel doubtful about. Do something that helps you to feel confident and happy, It doesn’t matter what it is. Go for a walk, play your favorite sport, listen to music, watch a good movie or go to a museum.
Be honest about your expectations. Ask yourself the following questions. What are my expectations? Are they realistic? Am I expecting too much of myself?
Share your feelings with someone that you can trust and who is supportive. Be careful not to confide in those who allow their own doubts and a negative perspective, to limit them. Learn how to take care of yourself and share your dreams with those who have followed theirs.
Be with those who uplift you and will love you for who you are.
Listen within, for what is right for you and trust your intuition.
Spend some time alone. Listen to your heart and your gut. Ask yourself: “If I knew that I would succeed and that everything is possible what would I do? What is my truth?
Write down a plan for what you would like to accomplish and experience. Break it down into manageable steps. Give yourself small daily and weekly goals. Celebrate your progress. If you begin to feel doubt, take a time out. Refocus on what you have accomplished and what your next steps will be.
Give it your all and remember that choosing the safe sure thing does not necessarily mean that you will be happy, successful or better off. You cannot control outcomes, but you can choose to participate in what brings you joy and what feels right for you.

From the Book, Discover Your Authentic Self

Try Surrender

images Have you ever been in a difficult situation or confronted an issue and as hard as you try and as much as you want to affect a positive outcome, you get nowhere? It is not always easy to know when we have done all that we can in any given situation. When we are frustrated, discouraged or disappointed, we tend to blame ourselves or others when things do not go the way that we want them to. An obstacle, relationship, skill or problem may seem to be stronger than we are. We may want to give up and walk away or we may obsessively keep trying to control and create change.

When you feel that you are banging your head against a wall or you are driving yourself crazy trying to control outcomes and conditions, consider surrendering. Surrender is not the same as giving up. Instead of struggling, surrender brings relief. It is the awareness that you are being redirected by a powerful and benevolent force of good. Surrender is the acceptance that what you desire, the problem that you want to solve, the relationship that you want to make work or the goal that you have set, is not in keeping with your highest good. With surrender you become empowered to release your worries, stress and anxiety and flow with the inner assurance that all is being worked out. 

There are times when you need to try harder, learn a new way or give it your all. But, when you get that uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach that what you desire is not meant for you, listen to it.

Surrender aligns you with your authentic self. It is not a battling against circumstances or a judgment of your inadequacies or another’s faults or problems. It allows you to see beyond the veil of your personal will and call forward your deeper truth and soul path. Surrender is a powerful statement to the universe that you accept its terms. Conditions and circumstances that you have been battling against and trying to control, transform. When you allow yourself to be led in what might appear to be the opposite direction, you often get what you want or something better. Surprising changes transpire as you accept others and conditions as they are.

Try these steps when you find yourself struggling and trying to control outcomes

Realize that there is another way. Take a step back and become aware of the struggle that you are engaged in. How does it feel? Are you getting what you want or becoming frustrated and discouraged?

Make a decision to detach It is not always easy to let go. Even when you do, you will likely want to jump back in. Make the intent to try another way. Pry your fingers off of your desires, breathe and let go.

Become comfortable with uncertainty and change. Once you let go, you will likely experience stress and anxiety. This is normal. These are the feelings that motivated you to try and control outcomes. Lean into the feelings and allow them to surface. As difficult as it may be, as you allow yourself to feel your feelings, they too will let go and dissipate.

Notice new direction. Take some time away from focusing on your issues and problems. Do something fun and relaxing. Make space for new direction to surface.  Feel the flow of new energy. Open your heart, mind and spirit and pay attention to signs, dreams and synchronisities

Follow though on new direction as it presents itself. Even, if it is not entirely clear or what you want. Stay positive and keep listening within and allowing yourself to be led. Trust what comes your way and take action when you feel as if you are being led.

There is a pervasive and all-knowing power of wisdom and love at work in your life. Steer into this current. Let go of trying to control the outer events in your life and trust what comes your way. Support and reassure yourself when the unexpected happens, that this too shall pass. Surrender to what is, conditions will right themselves. It is often through what does not work that hidden aspects of our authentic self come to the surface and we are led to a better good than we thought possible.   (from the book Discover Your Authentic Self)

 

The Intuitive Agenda

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With many years of being a professional psychic and medium under my belt, I am more aware than ever of the distinct difference between the thinking mind and intuitive receptivity. Intuitive awareness has taught me the importance of inner stillness and how to manage emotions, disappointments, and be present. I have learned to go in the opposite direction of the thinking mind. To be less reactive and to live with what is. Intuition has led me to acceptance. Even though much of the time we are motivated to develop intuition to know more and have an advantage in our daily concerns, it mysteriously always dips us into the deeper currents where we are working out the issues of our soul.
The map through life that intuition offers is a wild adventure. Intuitive awareness is a paradoxical lover that both demands that you wrestle with your day to day issues and challenges and at the same time, laugh it all off for the wispy dream that it is. We don’t get strapped in tight for this roller coaster. Instead, the exploration of intuitive awareness soon steers us into the depths of our inner self. It implores us to look in the full length mirror of our mind, body and spirit and become aware of how well we are reflecting the true potential and majesty of our soul.
When we intuitively listen within, timeless questions come to the forefront and demand to be answered.
How do I love? Can I be kind in the face of small frustrations and meanness? Can I be myself and follow my dreams or am I easily scared into complacency and rigid adherence to societal norms and expectations? What does this world need for me to give and share?
We cannot answer these questions with only the courage and love that our human self can muster. Fortunately intuitive awareness supplies both the questions and the wisdom to answer them. It opens the door for our soul to surge forward and remind us of a truth that we may have been hiding from. We are made of the stuff of the earth, the skies and the stars. The heavens is our rightful home. Life on earth breaks us down and builds us back up many times over. Yet, within self there is a much stronger and brighter light that the world cannot touch. In this light we heal and are made strong. Your intuitive knowing is always nudging you to reclaim what has never been lost. All that we undergo, the joy, suffering, desire, confusion and stress, pushes us to perceive and embody this inner light.
Your power and true self does not live in the shadows of the world. The quality of your days, the ability to feel authentic joy and live with purpose and positivity cannot be found through searching outside of yourself. Instead, it is when we are able to listen, perceive, feel and sense that there is something more within us speaking with a still small whisper, that it all begins to make sense.
Turn away from the chaotic loud voice of the world and be present to your own profound goodness and you will find the true you. Intuition may give you insight into the many demands that you encounter each day, but it’s true purpose is to usher you into the remembrance of who you are.

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