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What to Do When Your Life is Turned Upside Down

10479723_862760080419881_4030678774362004685_n Living a spiritual life, becoming aware and listening within, is an accelerated path of growth and evolution. Sometimes this journey inspires peaceful, joyous and lofty thoughts, feelings and experiences, but not always. Along the way you are likely to experience times of sudden and unexpected change and confusion.

I recently saw a client, a woman about to turn forty, whose world and marriage was turned upside down by an overwhelming and unexpected attraction to another man. The last time I saw Vicky was a couple of years ago. At that time she was happily married with two young children. Now confused and ridden with guilt over her affair, Vicky wanted to understand why she was drawn and magnetized to this man and what to do now that her life was in shambles.

Vicky is not alone. This kind of experience is more common than we would like to imagine. Many are jolted out of their predictable life by unforeseen and unexpected people and events. This might be spurred on by the entry of someone who stirs up unexpected feelings, the sudden loss of a job, failing or not getting into a long sought after program or opportunity, financial loss, being left, betrayed or finding out upsetting information about a loved one.

These cataclysmic occurrences, ignite and stir up new feelings and emotions that we cannot always explain. We no longer know who we are, why the unexpected is happening and what to do about it. There is a powerful force that seems to take over what we thought we wanted and steers us in a totally unexpected direction.
The Root of Change

The root of these life chaining events is within you. You have come into this life to fully experience who you are. You are here to evolve, develop compassion, practice forgiveness and to love and experience joy. If who you want to be and the life that you want to live is not in synch with your innermost truth, your desires will take constant effort to manifest. Even then they will require continued exhaustive energy and not be long lasting. Your powerful authentic self seeks to break down the barriers that limit your potential and the expression of your truth.

Vicky like many others, was not intentionally living a false life and suppressing her true thoughts and feelings. She was doing the best that she could to be a good wife and mother. She loved her family and was not looking to have an affair.

Yet, unexpected changes occur when we settle into a false life. We do not always know who we are and what we need. We are not so much trying to consciously control and limit ourselves, we just do not know the potential that lies within and our true purpose. Life shows us, often in unpleasant ways, what lies deep within our soul and psyche. Taken into places and situations that we would normally avoid, we are re-routed from the safety of our comfort zone and like a baby bird thrown out of the nest. We come to know who we are when we are pushed and prodded to change and grow. Under normal circumstances we would not choose to be tested in these ways. We avoid change and do all we can do to control our day to day circumstances.

If you find yourself in one of these kinds of life-altering situations here are a few helpful suggestions.

Do not try to control what is happening As much as you may not understand why and what you are going through, surrender and let go. When we resist and try to control ourselves and life, change only becomes harder. Once in motion transformation is inevitable.

Keep the focus on you and your process. As tempting as it is to blame or become preoccupied with outer events and other people, what is happening is about you. People and circumstances come along when we are ready for change. When we need a wake up call our soul creates the perfect experience to get our attention. Conditions will right themselves as you accept your lessons, evolve and transform.

Take time for yourself. Instead of trying to figure out what you may not yet be able to understand, accept your confusion and give yourself some time.

If you do not know what to do, do not do anything. You may need solitude to listen within and re-connect with your inner self.

Have compassion for yourself and the people in your life that are affected by what you are going through. Compassion is the ability to fully accept and love and care for yourself without judgment. Listen to others and accept the fear and pain that they may be experiencing. Listen to your own fear, doubt and stress and keep loving yourself.

Forgive yourself and forgive others. Even if you do not feel forgiving and especially loving. Use positive affirmations that support and spark your most wise and loving inner self.

Take baby steps and constantly assess how you feel. Know that it is all right to make mistakes, change your mind and feel differently from one moment to another. Do not make commitments or long lasting changes unless you feel a calm inner assurance that you are on the right path.

Notice new aspects of your personality and inner self that are emerging. Integrate these into your daily life. Listen to your heart and let it be your guide. Follow what helps you to feel centered, balanced, loving and calm.

Know that the confusion, the tumultuous events and changes, will pass. Wait out the storm. Clarity, renewed energy and a higher state of well-being and inner peace is on its way.
I gracefully accept change.

Psychic and Medium Sherrie Dillard is the author of the best selling Discover Your Psychic Type, Love and Intuition, The Miracle Workers Handbook and You Are A Medium. http://www.sherriedillard.com sgd7777@yahoo.com

Three Ways You can Help Your Loved Ones on the Other Side

????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? Many people seek the services of a medium because they want to know that their loved ones who have passed over are peacefully resting, surrounded by love and still very much alive. Receiving messages from a professional medium can ease the grieving process as well as provide insight as to how your loved ones who have crossed over are guiding and assisting you in your daily life.
Yet, you do not have to be a professional medium to communicate with those on the other side. It is natural and normal to sense the presence of your loved ones, especially in difficult and challenging times. Perhaps you have experienced this yourself. For instance: Has the solution to a problem or concern suddenly popped up in your thoughts? When you need to make a decision, have you ever had a strong intuitive feeling that inspired you to choose the best outcome? Do you at times find that you are at the right place at the right time or have surprising good luck? These and other similar experiences are signs that you are being guided by an invisible presence. A loved on the other side is likely working diligently to assist and help you.
Although you may be aware of being guided by the loving presence of another in the spirit realm, you may not be aware of the extent to which you are able to help those on the other side. You are more powerful than you may realize. Love transcends the boundaries of time and space. Your efforts here on earth impact those you love, both here in the physical world and in the beyond.
Here are three ways that you can assist your loved ones who have passed over.
Claim Victory over Challenges
One of the ways that our loved ones who have passed over continue to heal and evolve is by drawing close to those of us in the physical world that are experiencing similar life lessons. When your loved ones in spirit review their earth lives, they become aware of the decisions and actions that they took while in the physical world that supported or sabotaged their soul growth and evolution. Inspired by the all-knowing awareness of the heavens, they begin to understand how they may have limited their ability to manifest and experience their highest good. This is where you come in. By watching and observing your positive efforts in confronting your day to day challenges and circumstances, healing your emotional wounds, developing your talents and skills, and your service and kindness to others, they have the opportunity to vicariously experience a new way through you. Through your personal choices, struggles and actions, those who have passed over are inspired, encouraged helped and healed.
Forgive
Let go of the past. Release and heal the wounds and the injustices done to you by those on the other side. Forgiveness frees you from the heavy chains of negativity. When you allow yourself to love another despite the wrongdoings that they have committed, you dissolve your karmic connection to him or her. Loving healing energy streams into your soul and you are free.
Those on the other side need our forgiveness. In a recent reading, a client’s father came forward from the spirit realm to thank his daughter for forgiving him. Her father told her that when she forgave him he allowed himself to experience and absorb the love that was all around him. He realized the harshness and meanness that he inflicted on her and he felt a deep repentance and sadness. He could not understand how he could have hurt such a beautiful soul. Her forgiveness humbled him and allowed him to heal.
When you forgive another who is on the other side you return to them their actions, thoughts and emotions. The energy goes back to its source. Those in spirit who you forgive are motivated to focus on the actions, beliefs and the choices that they made while in the physical world. What we do, we do to ourselves.
The degree to which you forgive another, you will accept forgiveness for yourself. Forgiveness magnifies the energy of authentic love and compassion and allows miracles into your life.
Live Life to the Fullest
Embrace the goodness of life. Practice gratitude and generate positive energy. Not only does this create happiness in your own life, your enthusiasm inspires and creates a stronger bond with those on the other side.
Those who did not take advantage of opportunities in the physical realm, procrastinated or had a negative prospective, learn from your courage and positive outlook. Once in the spirit realm your loved ones become aware that they created what they experienced here on earth through their attitudes, thoughts and perception. Through the positive choices that you make that lead to happiness, they can experience the physical realm in a new way.
Joy and love is the energy of the other side. Your happiness dissolves the separation between you and those who you love who have passed over. Your loved one may have left the earth without experiencing the joy that is possible here.
Embracing joy lifts you into the higher realms of love, beyond the confines of time and space. True connection with the other side is possible when you live in the pure presence of love.
Allow the veil that seems to separate the physical and spiritual realms to dissolve. We are one.
You Are a Medium
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4 Ways to make your Intuition Work for you this Holiday Season

eagelLet this holiday season be a time of renewal and restoration. It is easy to get caught up in the stress and frenzy that has become routine this time of year. Cultural, family, and personal expectations often create a false ideal of what is sanely possible. Although the holidays are a time of giving, sharing, eating, enjoying and celebrating, this time of year is also celebrates of the emergence of your most powerful self.

During the winter solstice the sun is at its weakest. It has reached its most southerly point on the horizon and darkness settles in. From this long night, the light begins to once again emerge and expand. The solstice is a celebration of the return of light to the world. Three days later, on Christmas Eve, the return of the light of the divine re-emerges from within the individual. The spiritual significance of Christmas Eve is the celebration of the birth and rebirth of divine presence.  It is the reminder that we are not simply physical beings. We are spirit, connected to the source of all life, creation, wisdom and love.  Just as the solstice marks the time of year when the sun returns to nurture the crops and replenish the earth, Christmas marks the return of the light of the heavens within human consciousness.

What does your intuition have to do with all of this? Your intuition is your most powerful natural wisdom. It is the voice of your spirit. It is through your spirit that the light of the divine emerges.  Your intuition guides you in your everyday concerns and it is your spirit’s compass directing you into the experience of unconditional love and inner peace. It is through your intuition that you can consciously experience the true significance of the holiday season.

The Gift of Your Intuitive Type

You intuition is as unique as you are. I have identified four primary modalities through which we intuit. You may receive energy information through your thoughts, your emotions, through your physical body or through your energy field. I call these different ways of intuiting, your intuitive type. You may predominantly intuit through one of these types, through a combination of a couple of types or through all four types.

Emotional Intuitives

Emotional intuitives absorb energy information through their feelings and emotions. They are naturally empathetic and feel others feelings. They are also attuned to the vibrations of divine love.

This season, take some time to tune into your emotional energy.  Emotional intuitives all too often become an emotional energy sponge, absorbing the emotions of others and of events. You are not responsible for everyone else. Be responsible for your sense of wellbeing and inner peace and allow others to take charge of their happiness.

 Try This:

Find a quiet place and time, close your eyes and breathe into your heart. With each breath imagine your heart expanding and filling with love. Set the intent to become aware of and release any emotional wounds and past hurts. Allow your intuition to guide you. Ask within for what needs forgiveness. Breathe into your heart and allow unconditional love to flow through you. Forgive and let go. Let the power of a greater love remind you of who you are. Breathe in this love and ask your intuition to help you to become aware of anyone that needs love. Send them the gift of unconditional love without absorbing their emotional energy.

Mental Intuitives

Mental intuitives intuit through their thoughts. They are naturally telepathic and receive energy information through a sense of knowing. They are connected to truth, consciousness and can absorb divine thoughts.

In the midst of holiday expectations and what may seem like a million things to do and take care of, let your intuition guide you to your highest thoughts. Do not strive for perfection. Notice when you expect too much from yourself.

Try This

Take some time to listen within.  Breathe cleansing breaths and become aware of your thoughts one after another. Do not give them too much attention, just breathe, become aware and let go. Ask within for a divine thought. Breathe and listen. Be patient and continue to ask and listen. You may hear or simply know when you receive a divine thought. It will be uplifting, simple and fill you with peace.

Physical Intuitives

A physical intuitive absorbs energy information into the physical body. They often feel others ache and pains and feel energized by positive people and situations and drained and exhausted by negativity. For the physical intuitive the body is the divine temple. They perceive the spirit within physical form.

Physical intuition can be especially valuable at this time of year. With so many tempting foods to eat and tiring busy schedules we can forget to take care of ourselves.  Your intuition can guide you as to how to nurture and care for you.

Try This

Take time every day to ask within as to what you most need. Your body is always communicating to you. Not only is this a time of spiritual renewal, it can also be a time for physical renewal. Before you eat all of the available goodies, hold the tempting food in your hand and ask within if this will weaken or strengthen you. Trust what you receive. Ask what else will bring joy into the body. Perhaps a massage, a yoga class, running, dancing or sitting in a sweat or steam room will not only relax you, but awaken a sense of joy and well-being within the body.

Spiritual Intuitives

Spiritual intuitives receive energy information through the aura of energy field. Although this might seem to be a little more abstract than the other ways of intuiting, it is quite common and natural. Spiritual intuitives tend to be more aware of the presence of loved ones on the other side, angels and spirit beings than the other types. They are also inclined to be clairvoyant. This is the ability to “see” energy information. This may come in the form of realistic three-dimensional images or more symbolic, figurative images. Spiritual intuitives often intuit and receive future premonitions through their dreams.

Although they may not be able to define it in words, spiritual intuitives are more aware of their spirit essence.

A hectic, busy holiday schedule with an emphasis on materialism can leave a spiritual intuitive feeling out of touch and depressed. Although all of the intuitive types need quiet and contemplative time, it is especially important that the spiritual intuitive focus within. One interesting way that a spiritual intuitive (and all the types) can experience a more spirit focused holiday is through their dreams.

Try This

Before you go to sleep, ask for a dream that will help you to experience a spiritual renewal. Ask for a Christmas, solstice or holiday dream message. I have done this several times during the holidays and have experienced truly uplifting and inspiring dreams. You may want to write down this request and put it under your pillow. Tell yourself to remember the dream. Then have paper and pen ready by your bedside to write it down as soon as you wake. Although you will still benefit from the dream even if you cannot clearly recall it, you will want to fully remember, embrace and cherish it. Be patient.  You may not dream the first or second night of your request. It may even take a week or more. But, it will happen. Keep asking for your holiday dream gift before you go to sleep.

(I would love for you to share it with me.)

This is the season of the emergence of light. Focus on what is important and rest will take care of itself. Love and blessings